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Any tips for people suffering from borderline personality disorder?

First of all, hey there stranger! I’m Finola (r-jects) and I actually suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder myself. It can be really confusing having such conflicting emotions that can change at the drop of the hat and I fully sympathise with you. 

Borderline Personality Disorder (herein will be known as BPD) is a tricky one to get your head around, and if I’m honest, since my diagnosis, I still don’t fully understand what exactly it means. It used to be the borderline between neurosis and psychosis. However, a better way to describe it would be Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder.

As for dealing with it, I think that sometimes it’s easier to try to just roll with your emotions, as if they were a wave in the sea. If you have a psychotic episode, try not to react to it as you feel you want to. It’s okay. Maybe everybody has them from time to time. 

It might feel very isolated and empty right, but although they say that BPD is a lifelong illness, I believe that it gets better over time. Don’t try to control your emotions too much; it’s okay if you’re being ‘oversensitive’ or ‘overreacting’. You might feel ‘too much’ but it’s much better than not feeling at all. 

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy is meant to also be really helpful, though I’ve never tried it. It is all about being okay with being happy and sad at the same time, and dealing with your conflicting emotions. Mindfulness is a huge part of this, and I believe that this has helped me hugely.

Mindfulness is all about just letting things be; noticing them as they are and not trying to change it. This fits into my earlier analogy of ‘riding the wave’. Bear in mind that mindfulness will take some getting used to, and you might find it very difficult to let go at first. Try not to beat yourself up about it too much. 

Also, in terms of tackling some of the more severe symptoms such as self harm and suicidal thoughts, they are best left to some professional techniques. I’ll make a list of websites that could help you (and anyone else who reads this) to help to prevent anything harmful.

I find that in order to stop myself from self harming, I use the 15 minute rule - where you wait for 15 minutes, and see if the urge has passed. If it has, brilliant. If not, you take a decision to wait another 15 minutes or you can hurt yourself. This of course is risky if you’re at a high distress level, and is not for everybody. 

There are plenty of distractions and alternatives to self harm, and these distractions can cross over with suicidal thoughts as well. Again, there will be several resources listed at the end of this. An important thing to remember for BPD is that your emotions will change soon. It won’t be like this forever. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but when you have such a volatile state of mind, you’ve got to use it to your advantage. 

You’re worth life. You’re worth food. You’re worth being safe. People care. I care.

- Finola <3

Sirius Project (self harm):

Recover Your Life:

Lifesigns (self harm):

Befrienders (suicide hotlines internationally):

Get Self Help:

HelpGuide (self harm):

Hope that’s helpful. Please feel free to message me privately (I won’t ever publish anything you don’t want me to unless it’s anonymous), and ask for more help if you need it. 

Thank you so much for having made this blog <3

You’re very welcome

Different Coping Strategies For Disorders

  • Anxiety: My counselor used to refer to it as the "McDonalds Milkshake" technique. Get a straw, preferably a bit thicker of one like a milkshake straw and take deep breaths through it. This will help focus your thoughts away from anxieties, engage your diaphragm and open your lungs to help stop chest tightening sensations. Additionally, wearing a wristwatch and counting seconds up to a minute can also help to center yourself. Always remember your deep breathing!
  • Dissociation: You need to encourage communication between your logical and emotional cognition. A neat way of doing this is if you can catch it as its coming on, stand on one foot, squeeze or fidget with something like a stress ball, and begin venting to yourself. Even just whisper quietly, talk about what you're feeling and thinking. Engaging yourself physically like this as well as emotionally will help keep you grounded.
  • Depression: Remember that while it's okay and totally necessary to take a day off sometimes and let yourself mentally recoup-- you do need to continue a routine. Even if it's uncomfortable get out and run errands, clean your house, phone someone. By pushing yourself to be proactive it can help to correct your brain. Additionally, about 20 minutes of exercise each day can help heaps as well.
  • Hallucinations: Call someone. Wish I could tell you some kind of super amazing coping advice for this, but honestly, the best thing you can do when hallucinations start happening is just avoid being alone. Text someone, Facebook someone, Skype, phone. Let someone know what's happening and allow them the liberty also to be able to contact ambulatory services if it goes too far. There's also many many helplines available that can assist you with this.
  • OCD: Exposure therapy, although in some areas a bit controversial, can be incredibly effective. It's often recommended though to have a counselor or worker with you while this happens if your OCD is quite severe. An interesting thing my counselor recently told me is to make yourself OCD-free zones. Draw out boundaries in your home and town where within certain areas you won't allow yourself and will stop as many compulsive behaviors as you can, and outside the boundaries you're free to do as you please. This can help teach management of negative symptoms as well as show that a little bit of compulsion is perfectly fine.
  • Borderline Personality: Thought challenging. Before you fly off with your emotions because someone says something that you take as invalidating, try and stop yourself for just a moment and force logic into the situation. Try and show yourself how this comment wasn't meant to make you feel bad, and while your emotions are always valid and you as a person are valid, this comment wasn't meant to be invalidating. Additionally, it's good to have communication about this but REMAIN CALM (as hard as it can be). By calmly sorting out your emotions and opinions you can shed a lot of relief onto a situation.
  • Bipolar Disorder: Mood tracking, so great. eMoods, Optimism, and a couple other apps for this stuff is out there and can be incredibly useful. Being able to map out your mood cycles and see them graphed makes it much easier to predict, manage and prevent negative self talk and other symptoms.
  • That's all for now. If you'd like more tips for anything not listed feel free to message me at illusoryacid any time!:


Country: Denmark

Mental Illness (es): 

  • Panic Anxiety
  • Unclassifyed Personality Disorder
  • Self-harm
  • Seasonal Affective Disorder

-> in recovery

-> Sometimes blogs about it

-> May have triggering images on blog

-> approachable for friendship and/or discussion

-> NSFW - 18+ content

If you think an object is your baby what is that called, what does it mean

That’s disassociation, which could be symptomatic of a range of illnesses and be indicative of many things in relation to the individual.
'Thinking an object is your baby' is not a specific illness.


i’ve put together a resources page to refer to if you’re sad/stressed and need some help.
if anyone has anything to add to the list, please let me know - i’m glad to credit you.

I don’t know which direction this blog should go in but I think the original purpose has been skewed and distorted.
If anyone has any ideas about the future of this network, please write in.

Mia (sad-alien)


Country: England
Mental Illnesses:

  • depression
  • anxiety
  • paranoid
  • ocd traits
  • derealisation
  • depersonalisation

->in therapy
->in recovery
->approachable for friendship/discussion
->triggering images

Wow, I just found this through a blog that I follow - and the directory is amazing. I am suffering from; BPD and Manic Depression. It helps a lot knowing that I am not alone and your blog just made me realize that it's not just me. This blog is perfect. Thank you<3
you know my mother who runs an actual shelter always told me that tumblr was a terrible place for people with mental illnesses to seek help

That’s interesting.
My personal belief is that creating supportive, helpful environments for people with mental illnesses EVERYWHERE is important. I encourage people to seek whatever help they need, wherever it is available. :-)